The other day I came across a post on a Dutch beauty blog where readers were asked whether they’d rather be married to a professional soccer player or be a career woman. The contrast was presented quite black and white: married to a soccer player means you’re not financially independent, you always stand behind THE man and you are best known for your good looks and spending money like water. The career woman on the other hand was presented as never being home, with no time to spend the money she makes, but she is the sole provider for the family, though she never sees her kids.
Most comments I read favored being married to a soccer player over being a career woman. To me, a financially independent young woman with ambitions so high it could burn a hole in the sky, that was quite shocking and made me wonder: Am I the only female on this planet who could care less about raising a family and getting married in the first place and is more focused on building a career for herself than anything else?
First of all, I’m pretty sure I’m not the only female on the planet, but I definitely seem to be a rare specimen of the female species. I haven’t met many girls who feel the way I do or who live their lives the way I do. I actually think I have yet to meet someone like me. I like doing things by myself, for myself and with myself. I like being alone. It’s when I’m at my best. This goes for a lot of things: from vacations, to work, to concerts, to dance classes. I don’t like doing EVERYTHING with EVERYBODY. To top things off, I don’t like building deeper social connections with people except for a few select individuals who I have known for a long time.
like love my independence and could never imagine having to depend on anyone else. In fact I hate being dependent on others. I have been financially independent since I moved out for college, which was nearly 10 years ago. Ten years of paying my own bills, sorting out my own problems and taking care of myself. The only time I allowed anyone to take care of me was when I crashed back in 2008. At that time it was absolutely necessary as I couldn’t do anything anymore, and unless I’m rendered completely useless again I don’t think I’ll depend on anyone any time soon.
Add to this my slightly obsessive nature and you have the right concoction for someone who cannot even begin to IMAGINE living on someone else’s money, let alone actually wanting to do so. I like being in control and having the know how to get things done. It is something I pride myself in and to become a soccer player’s wife who follows hubby dearest wherever he goes, living off his money and only being known for being the pretty wife-of is a downright horror story to me.
I hate being called pretty to begin with. Call me smart and I’ll except that as a compliment. I like being known for being professional, organized and intelligent. I don’t want to be on a man’s arm just so he can show me off to the world. It’s just not something I appreciate or enjoy doing. The funny thing is that I have met guys who CLAIM that they are after independent girls, but I have YET to meet one who actually acts like it too. It’s the main reason why I’m single and until I find a guy who can go beyond shallow statements because he thinks it will make me feel good, I think that situation won’t stop any time soon.
My choice is obvious: I would definitely opt for being a career woman. The only alteration to the situation I would make is that there won’t be a family to provide for unless you count the family as consisting of me, myself and I. That’s right: I’m not looking to start a family. Right now, even a relationship isn’t something I’m looking for. I simply don’t feel the need to, never have. I’m not saying I never will, but right now the focus lies with my career and if I eventually happen to meet someone worth my time I’m sure things will change. Until then, I have other goals to reach.
What would you pick: soccer wife or career woman? Let me know in a comment below.